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Rape is one of - if not the most - unspeakably
vile acts of violence someone (perhaps "monster" would be more apropos) can commit against another human
being. I consider it so important, I have assigned this article its own link, so it doesn't get lost among
the other 300 + pages on this site. I personally know someone, a very close friend, who was raped several years
ago, and my sense of outrage was so great that, if I had been able to find the monster who committed this violent act,
I would have had no problem with castrating him and forcing him to eat his own testicles. Before the rape, my dear friend
was a very strong, confident individual, not afraid of anything. It took several years of therapy before she regained
her confidence, sense of security, and trust in men. She moved in with me for several years, while she confronted the demons
the rape foisted upon her. Please feel free to copy this article, and send it on to others, and hopefully prevent someone
you know or care about, from experiencing the horrific violence of rape. Many thanks to Karen for sending this article
to the Mighty MitchMan.
- The MMM
Through A Rapist's Eyes
When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to my lady friends, but
I forwarded it to most everyone in my address book. My men friends have female friends and this Information is too important
to miss someone.
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here
are some interesting facts:
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun,
braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed . They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair .
Women with short hair are not common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them
carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women on their cell phone,
searching through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily
overpowered.
4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5: 00a.m. and 8:30a.m.
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots. The number two: office
parking lots/garages. Number three: public restrooms.
6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location
where they don't have to worry about getting caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries
a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that
going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that
can be used from a distance, in their hands.
Keys are NOT
a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince
these guys you're not worth it.
10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following
behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a
question, like what time is it?, or make general small talk: 'I can't believe it is so cold out here,' 'We're in for a bad winter.' Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up;
you lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front
of you and yell STOP! or STAY BACK! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she
yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
12)
If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell
I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you, you can't
beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed
around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the Arm (between
the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm
pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the
guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts. 14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you
slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to
hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.
15) When the
guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure
pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees
and both knuckles cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your
surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!
You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do :
The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!
2. Learned this from a tourist
guide in New Orleans : If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse,
DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more
interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm
out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook,
or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him
to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU
GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.
a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine
and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the
worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.
5 A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage:
A.) Be aware:
look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.
B.) If you are parked next
to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their
vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side
of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back
into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.
IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE
SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6.
ALWAYS take the
elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially
true at NIGHT!)
7. If the predator
has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target)
4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!
8.
As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may
get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies
of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehicle,
which is when he abducted his next victim.
9. Another Safety Point: Someone
just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it
was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her 'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.'
The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she
was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way,
whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.' He told her
that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone
dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's
cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night.
Please
pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby --- This should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory
was mentioned on America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana
I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life.
A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your
mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as well. Unknown author or copyright.
Used with assumed permission.
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